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25 Questions I Asked Myself Recently and You Should Too….

We are now 3 weeks into 2014 and I am already feeling so accomplished and I’m sooooo much better than I was last year.  I plan on keeping this feeling going on and on and on.  So I have been reading a lot and planning my future along the way. I have been making lists of things that I need to prepare for school and studying for the LSATs in June.  Within my reading I  was going through my Bloglovin’ feed and ran across a post from Life Is A Sunset called 25 Questions To Ask Yourself Before 2014. I felt it was a great way to start out the year but I didn’t really get to it before the new year but I DID it!! It made me think a lot about what I want this year and the following years to look like.  I read and answered those questions and wanted to share my answers with you. You should do this too! It is so eye-opening!! Here we go!!!

1/ What am I most proud of this year (2013)?

I’m proud that I have an amazing family.  They are my everything. They have been there for me more than anyone and they always will be. I just appreciate them more now.

2/ How can I become a better ________?

I want to become a better person all together.  I have learned that people’s feelings when they get to me is not about me.  It’s about them.  How I react to them is the only thing I can control.  I’m choosing to react better than I did before. 

3/ Where am I feeling stuck?

I’m feeling stuck in my progression of education.  It seems like everything gets in the way of me going back to school but Summer 2014 will be my start and I am not letting anything get in my way. I am determined to make it happen.  This is my future we’re talking about here. It WILL happen!!!

4/ Where do I need to allow myself grace?

I need to allow myself grace in enjoying myself sometimes.  I don’t allow myself those moments because I feel I haven’t accomplished anything to celebrate or have an enjoyable moment.  Oh but that’s going to change.  I’m going to work hard and play hard!!

5/ Am I passionate about my career?

I’m actually not in my career yet but I will be by the end of 2014.  I want to be working in a law firm by the end of the year getting experience in the industry I want to conquer…law! I’m beyond excited about my future and ready to get this show on the road!

6/ What lessons have I learned?

I have learned that I have to be more responsible in all aspects of my life.  I learned also that my family is the best part of my earthly life.  God is THE life of me. Period.

7/ What did my finances look like?

My finances in 2013 were a mess at the beginning because I was just buying anything I wanted and not thinking about having real experiences. Just things. By September though I was doing so much better.  In 2014 I will be doing exceptionally well because of my budget that I created.  I’m automating and saving for some BIG moves this year.  I’m working this plan I have to work for me and not against me.

8/ How did I spend my free time?

I spent my free time being really unproductive.  Not doing anything because of tiredness and stress from different situations that I had no control over.  I could have been doing something to get my creativity going and in turn allowing that to focus my mind. Now I’m focused man!!(in my Jay-Z voice)

9/ How well did I take care of my body, mind and soul?

I didn’t!! Simply put.  Period.  I was stressed all the time. I ate whatever I wanted most of the time. I didn’t create any type of solace for myself at all.  I know I’m right and left brained but I didn’t stimulate either side.  I didn’t progress or produce anything toward my future.  Changes coming though!!

10/ How have I been open-minded?

I have been open to allowing people to help me.  I ‘ve mostly been open-minded to other people’s situations because I now realize that God placed that person in front of me for a reason.  Now I just search for the reason behind that meeting. 

11/ When did I feel most creatively inspired?

I felt most creatively inspired when I went home to visit my family in November and felt like writing so much there and I did.  A lot of those writings have yet to be posted and some of the inspirations have yet to be written but I was inspired nonetheless.  Look out for my inspirations.  Hopefully they will inspire you too!!

12/ What projects have I completed?

I helped my sister move into the dorms for her freshman year of college and that was a really emotional thing for me because I just realized that she was growing up and becoming a young lady. I also went back to pick her up for her Fall break and for us both to see our mother together.  I really want her to be better than me. Thought she’s not a project, I feel like I helped her which is my job.

13/ How have I procrastinated?

I have missed opportunities to go back to school by not being able to decide what I want to do with my life and also not being focused on what I should.  Not doing anything at all, honestly.  Done with that crap!! You’ll see!!

14/ In what ways can I re-structure my time?

I can buy a calendar with time slots to schedule everything by time frame so that everything has a place and I can stay consistent with what needs to be done and moving forward.  Little steps are better than no steps. A schedule defined is what I need.

15/ How have I allowed fear of failure to hold me back?

I have allowed it to stop me from cultivating new friendships and having new experiences.  I’ve allowed it to keep me from reaching my goal in life which is becoming a sports attorney/sports agent.  I’m reaching for my dreams without fear holding me back. I’m shooting for the stars!

16/ Where has self-doubt taken over?

I’ve doubted myself because of not knowing exactly what I wanted to do so I didn’t do anything but I always thought about it and now I know.  Working toward becoming an attorney will take years but I will get there. No doubt!!

17/ When have I felt the most alive?

I have felt the most alive when I’ve been with my friends back home because I miss them when I’m in Atlanta.  I’m most alive with my huge family because I love them and we always have fun together. We are going to keep that party going because it is LITERALLY a party every time we are together!!

18/ How have I taught others to respect me?

I have always been pro-respect because everyone deserves it from the beginning but I demand respect from everyone.  I don’t have to yell or be mean or tell people to respect me because I respect myself.  Don’t tell them, show them!!!

19/ How can I improve my relationships?

I can improve my relationships whether personal, friendship, or familial, by staying in contact with them.  I’ve had an issue with sometimes being so far in my own world that I forget about my relationships that matter to me so I’ll do better at that.

20/ Have I been unfair to anyone?

I have been unfair to my family for a long time because they have given me so much and I feel like I owe them so much.  I can never repay them for all they have done for me.  I will try though!!

21/ Who do I need to forgive?

I need to forgive myself for not following my dreams when I was younger.  I have felt defeated for a long time and that is because I didn’t know what I wanted to be and it took me a long time to figure it out.  Now that I know better, I’m doing better.

22/ Where is it time to let go?

It’s time to let go of bad friendships and relationships that aren’t benefiting me as much as I’m benefiting them.  I have always been a supportive friend and partner in relationships but the other person hasn’t always been supportive of me.  I realized that I’m just a nurturing person and everybody is not.  I can live with that now.

23/ What old habits would I like to release?

I would like to release my habit of procrastinating.  It has kept me from reaching my full potential and moving forward in my life.  I’m tired of being in the same place so I’m planning and taking action on those plans.  Gotta work on this thang called my life and make some moves!!

24/ What new habits would I like to cultivate?

I would like to know more about saving money and investing.  I would also like to cultivate my consistency with my relationships.  The people in my life are very important to me and I just want to get my close relationships back.  My friends help me grow and our connections inspire me.

25/ How can I be kind to myself?

I can treat myself to better relationships and more experiences in my life.  Experiences are more meaningful than things and I am learning that so this year 2014 I will be 30 and I will be experiencing more rather than loving things.  I will love my experiences and create more moments with my loved ones!

Those are the answers to the questions from 25 Questions To Ask Yourself Before 2014. I answered them after 2014 but I feel I received a lot from the questions and my answers because it made me think about things I tried to forget and didn’t really want to bring to the front of my thoughts. I’m not sure if Life Is A Sunset created the questions but whoever did had a great mind to think of those questions and knew that people like me NEEDED to bring these thoughts to paper and put them in front of our faces to give ourselves reality kicks in the butt!! 

I have officially been kicked!!!

If you have answered these questions, please post a link to your post so I can read your answers. I feel like that would be really interesting.


Resolving To Be….?

It’s that time of year again where everyday is feeling brand new and wanting to improve their lives.  It’s a time of “I will exercise more”. It’s a time of “I’m going to save more money”. It’s a time of “I’m going to find love”.  It’s a time of “I’m going to follow my dreams”.  It’s a time for New Year’s Resolutions.wpid-2011-year-resolution-400x400.jpg

Photo credit: health.com

January 1 is when most people start the journey of their new year and their resolutions.  Some people are great  at setting, starting and following through on their resolutions.  Some people set, start, and don’t follow through on their resolutions.  I am one of those people that don’t make New Year’s resolutions because I feel that when I want to change, I will.  I just change.  I can’t wait because normally my habits just change without me really thinking about it.

When it comes to healthy living and eating right, I am okay with that.  I actually have a nice love affair with vegetables and fruit and don’t have any trouble eating them.  Exercising, however, is not my favorite thing to do but I know I have to do.  So I do **side eye** sometimes.


Photo credit:  deborahjerome.com

As far as money goes, I ended and am starting the year off right already.  There are things I want to do this year as far as vacations because this year I will be celebrating my 30th birthday and I have to, just must, take a trip to New York City. NO question or doubts!

Love in the year of 2014 is me loving myself more.  I’m open to loving someone else if it happens and God blesses me with that person but I’m not looking for it.  It will come when it’s time.  I’m focusing on strengthening my relationship with God first.  That is the most important relationship in my life.  That is the ultimate love.

I’ve been sleeping for a long time and it’s time to wake up from my dreams and start living in them.  I’m going back to school and I started this blog and I LOVE writing that I’m doing.  I just have so many things career wise that I want to accomplish so I’m doing it.

I guess the way it’s sounding I actually have a couple of things that are like resolutions that I want to accomplish but I refuse too call them that.  I will just call them “future accomplishments”.  I like that.  If you have any “Future Accomplishments” that you aspire to, leave them in the comments.  I would love to read about them.

By the way,  I’m actually thinking of changing the name of my blog.  2014, time for new things, right? More on that later!! HAPPY NEW YEAR!!! 2014 is YOUR YEAR!!! Make it count!!

From Where I Write….

I know I know!! Another late blog post but I’m trying to play catch up here so please bare with me. I know I don’t have a lot of followers (or any) right now but I’m hoping I can inspire some people.  I love writing so I knew that I was going to absolutely LOVE blogging.

If you have read my previous posts, you know that I’m a newborn baby to this world of blogging but I love it! Along with this post I am answering the call of NaBloPoMo’s writing challenge for November 5 by posting a response to *drum roll* “Tell us about your writing space. Where do you write your blog posts?”

Considering I just started blogging I don’t have a writing space that has been consistent. I write wherever I am which sort of helps me to write and express greater than in one place.  I’m sure at some point I will design a space for my writing time but as of right now “I blog where I am”. Right at this moment I am writing from my sister’s dorm room because I’m spending time with her in her new city in the great state of Louisiana. I love it here by the way!!

Since I don’t have a particular space that I write, I decided to give some examples of spaces that I love for their design and inspiration to me:

Office Pic Home Office Pics Home Office Pic2 Home Office Pic

I love the idea of having a space of my own that I can write from where I feel creatively colorful all the time but I also like being out in nature so I’m sure I would be outside too. Nature is, after all, the greatest work space ever created. Love the following ideas:

Beach Office Outdoor Home Office

It is really great blogging because I am really feeling that creative swagger coming out of me. I  LOVE IT!!!!

A Cover Represents A Thousand Words

Ok so I’ve been slacking on a lot of things (this blog included) and reading has definitely been one of them. I love reading and have since I was a little girl. I could read a single book in 2 days and move right on to the next one without missing a beat.

Back then I got recommendations for books from my friends and for the most part, my friends and I would just borrow each other’s books and pass than around to everybody until they got back to the original owner. We had done that since junior high on into high school. My friends helped me choose books back then.

However now that I am older and more mature I choose my own books of whatever genre I feel at that time to indulge in. Lately though I’ve been reading more career books such as

Russell Simmons “Super Rich”

50 Cent and Robert Greene “The 50th Law”

The covers of these 2 books didn’t necessarily pull me in but the description of each book did. When I read a nonfiction book (which these both are) I read the book based on reviews, recommendations, and the  given by the author/publisher. I feel that most nonfiction books’ covers don’t tell you about the book more than it tells you about the author. Self-help/career read tend to play to the fact of who the author is rather than what the book is actually about so you have to read reviews and the description.

Fiction books, however, are all about the cover artwork because that is what will draw the reader to the book when the person is in a store that has a display of books. The cover has to be interesting to look at for a reader to pick it up and even read the description of what it’s really about.

When I decide I want to read a book no matter what genre, I go to Amazon, Barnes and Noble or a local bookstore to read the description, reviews, or actually look through the table of contents and the first couple pages. Looking through the book myself helps me get a feel for the content and decide if it’s something I’m interested in. The cover may have very little to do with me buying it or choosing to read it. Content makes or breaks my decision ultimately on the choice.

I am actually now looking for a couple of books to keep me company. I get recommendations and inspiration from different places so if you have any recommendations leave me a comment below. I’d love to hear from you!

Thanks for reading!

Everyday (Or Catching Up) Blogging Is….

I know I haven’t blogged daily for the NaBloPoMo challenge due to working and traveling.  I have, however, tried to play catch up.  The question for the November 8 daily challenge is “Tell us what you’ve learned so far about daily blogging.”

I’ve only been blogging for 10 days and so far it’s been great because it’s given me a creative outlet to express myself and get my thoughts out.  I’ve always been a writer but I didn’t realize how much I would love it until I started blogging.  I LOVE WRITING!!!

Keep Calm

I know I haven’t been posting regularly but playing catch up has been a crazy experience.  I have been writing everytime I sit down and honestly it’s been exhilarating.  The writing is coming pretty easy since I began and I want to finish this challenge so I’m keeping it going.  I absolutely LOVE blogging and I’m excited for the things to come in my blog.  I hope you are too!!!

Working On A Better Me

I really am appreciative to BlogHer for NaBloPoMo because these challenges are helping me look inside myself and ask myself questions that I need to answer so the question for the November 6 prompt is “If you could change one thing about yourself, what would it be?”

For the longest time I have thought about this but I never actually answered the question because I’m a fairly confident person and I love myself.  I know that there are things that everyone would want to change about themselves and I have figured out what mine is…focus.


I realize now that I have, for a long time, been out of focus.  My life is okay but it’s nowhere compared to where I thought I would be at this age.  There are so many things that I wanted to have done by now (a Whole Other Post).  Those things require focus and that’s something that I have lacked the last couple of years (yes, years).

However I am working on adjusting the lens on my camera so that I develop better images that I am living and loving in my life.  Starting this blog, for example, is something I’ve wanted to do since the beginning of this year and now I’ve finally done it.  I’m using this blog as an outlet for expression and to keep me focused on my goals and tasks for other things.  I’m hoping this will work because I’m working on getting things done.


So I’m working on more than a few changes in my life and I’ve started with this blog and there is definitely more to come….the BEST is yet to come!!

I Love To Write and So I Blog…..

I LOVE to write and didn’t realize how much until recently and so I blog…..My Pic

I would like to introduce myself first though. My name is Charita and I have been going over and over in my mind about whether I should start a blog and this one is very simple considering I’m just starting out. I love reading blogs and I have a lot of favorites. I find myself reading those favorites every single day and I realized since that there are interesting people out there that have great stories and things that happen in their lives that I am privileged to read.

I decided that this will be my very FIRST post to my new blog. I want to express myself in all ways with this new journey that I’m starting. I have a lot of ideas, thoughts, and GREATNESS I want to share about my life and the things that happen in it. This is my outlet creatively. I don’t really know any other way to express it but through this blog hopefully I will find them. I will also be posting some things that I’ve already written in the past…I’m talking years ago. I have poetry that I’ve written that I think, personally, are great. I just feel that now is the time to share them and other things that have inspired me….hopefully to inspire others to finally start pursuing the things that they love and will make them happy.

As this blog is created and hopefully grows gradually and as I gradually grow, I hope to inspire with my words, my photography and my life. Grow with me as I take this journey!!! I’M SO EXCITED!!!!!