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So I have changed my blog name…

Hello all you beautiful people!
I know I haven’t posted anything to this blog in a while but there is a reason for this. I decided that the name of the blog doesn’t fit me at all and when I started blogging I don’t feel I thought the name all the way through.
Fortunately I have thought it out for a while and the new name is….(drumroll please)
Colors of A Sapphire!!!

I chose this name because I felt like it embodied me because my birthstone is Sapphire but I am not a person that is only one dimensional or one color so that’s where colors came from which also means that my posts will be multi-dimensional. I wanted to express that to everyone. Hopefully everyone will like the new flow of the new blog, Colors Of A Sapphire! Click on the link and go over and check out the new look! Let me know what you think.

25 Questions I Asked Myself Recently and You Should Too….

We are now 3 weeks into 2014 and I am already feeling so accomplished and I’m sooooo much better than I was last year.  I plan on keeping this feeling going on and on and on.  So I have been reading a lot and planning my future along the way. I have been making lists of things that I need to prepare for school and studying for the LSATs in June.  Within my reading I  was going through my Bloglovin’ feed and ran across a post from Life Is A Sunset called 25 Questions To Ask Yourself Before 2014. I felt it was a great way to start out the year but I didn’t really get to it before the new year but I DID it!! It made me think a lot about what I want this year and the following years to look like.  I read and answered those questions and wanted to share my answers with you. You should do this too! It is so eye-opening!! Here we go!!!

1/ What am I most proud of this year (2013)?

I’m proud that I have an amazing family.  They are my everything. They have been there for me more than anyone and they always will be. I just appreciate them more now.

2/ How can I become a better ________?

I want to become a better person all together.  I have learned that people’s feelings when they get to me is not about me.  It’s about them.  How I react to them is the only thing I can control.  I’m choosing to react better than I did before. 

3/ Where am I feeling stuck?

I’m feeling stuck in my progression of education.  It seems like everything gets in the way of me going back to school but Summer 2014 will be my start and I am not letting anything get in my way. I am determined to make it happen.  This is my future we’re talking about here. It WILL happen!!!

4/ Where do I need to allow myself grace?

I need to allow myself grace in enjoying myself sometimes.  I don’t allow myself those moments because I feel I haven’t accomplished anything to celebrate or have an enjoyable moment.  Oh but that’s going to change.  I’m going to work hard and play hard!!

5/ Am I passionate about my career?

I’m actually not in my career yet but I will be by the end of 2014.  I want to be working in a law firm by the end of the year getting experience in the industry I want to conquer…law! I’m beyond excited about my future and ready to get this show on the road!

6/ What lessons have I learned?

I have learned that I have to be more responsible in all aspects of my life.  I learned also that my family is the best part of my earthly life.  God is THE life of me. Period.

7/ What did my finances look like?

My finances in 2013 were a mess at the beginning because I was just buying anything I wanted and not thinking about having real experiences. Just things. By September though I was doing so much better.  In 2014 I will be doing exceptionally well because of my budget that I created.  I’m automating and saving for some BIG moves this year.  I’m working this plan I have to work for me and not against me.

8/ How did I spend my free time?

I spent my free time being really unproductive.  Not doing anything because of tiredness and stress from different situations that I had no control over.  I could have been doing something to get my creativity going and in turn allowing that to focus my mind. Now I’m focused man!!(in my Jay-Z voice)

9/ How well did I take care of my body, mind and soul?

I didn’t!! Simply put.  Period.  I was stressed all the time. I ate whatever I wanted most of the time. I didn’t create any type of solace for myself at all.  I know I’m right and left brained but I didn’t stimulate either side.  I didn’t progress or produce anything toward my future.  Changes coming though!!

10/ How have I been open-minded?

I have been open to allowing people to help me.  I ‘ve mostly been open-minded to other people’s situations because I now realize that God placed that person in front of me for a reason.  Now I just search for the reason behind that meeting. 

11/ When did I feel most creatively inspired?

I felt most creatively inspired when I went home to visit my family in November and felt like writing so much there and I did.  A lot of those writings have yet to be posted and some of the inspirations have yet to be written but I was inspired nonetheless.  Look out for my inspirations.  Hopefully they will inspire you too!!

12/ What projects have I completed?

I helped my sister move into the dorms for her freshman year of college and that was a really emotional thing for me because I just realized that she was growing up and becoming a young lady. I also went back to pick her up for her Fall break and for us both to see our mother together.  I really want her to be better than me. Thought she’s not a project, I feel like I helped her which is my job.

13/ How have I procrastinated?

I have missed opportunities to go back to school by not being able to decide what I want to do with my life and also not being focused on what I should.  Not doing anything at all, honestly.  Done with that crap!! You’ll see!!

14/ In what ways can I re-structure my time?

I can buy a calendar with time slots to schedule everything by time frame so that everything has a place and I can stay consistent with what needs to be done and moving forward.  Little steps are better than no steps. A schedule defined is what I need.

15/ How have I allowed fear of failure to hold me back?

I have allowed it to stop me from cultivating new friendships and having new experiences.  I’ve allowed it to keep me from reaching my goal in life which is becoming a sports attorney/sports agent.  I’m reaching for my dreams without fear holding me back. I’m shooting for the stars!

16/ Where has self-doubt taken over?

I’ve doubted myself because of not knowing exactly what I wanted to do so I didn’t do anything but I always thought about it and now I know.  Working toward becoming an attorney will take years but I will get there. No doubt!!

17/ When have I felt the most alive?

I have felt the most alive when I’ve been with my friends back home because I miss them when I’m in Atlanta.  I’m most alive with my huge family because I love them and we always have fun together. We are going to keep that party going because it is LITERALLY a party every time we are together!!

18/ How have I taught others to respect me?

I have always been pro-respect because everyone deserves it from the beginning but I demand respect from everyone.  I don’t have to yell or be mean or tell people to respect me because I respect myself.  Don’t tell them, show them!!!

19/ How can I improve my relationships?

I can improve my relationships whether personal, friendship, or familial, by staying in contact with them.  I’ve had an issue with sometimes being so far in my own world that I forget about my relationships that matter to me so I’ll do better at that.

20/ Have I been unfair to anyone?

I have been unfair to my family for a long time because they have given me so much and I feel like I owe them so much.  I can never repay them for all they have done for me.  I will try though!!

21/ Who do I need to forgive?

I need to forgive myself for not following my dreams when I was younger.  I have felt defeated for a long time and that is because I didn’t know what I wanted to be and it took me a long time to figure it out.  Now that I know better, I’m doing better.

22/ Where is it time to let go?

It’s time to let go of bad friendships and relationships that aren’t benefiting me as much as I’m benefiting them.  I have always been a supportive friend and partner in relationships but the other person hasn’t always been supportive of me.  I realized that I’m just a nurturing person and everybody is not.  I can live with that now.

23/ What old habits would I like to release?

I would like to release my habit of procrastinating.  It has kept me from reaching my full potential and moving forward in my life.  I’m tired of being in the same place so I’m planning and taking action on those plans.  Gotta work on this thang called my life and make some moves!!

24/ What new habits would I like to cultivate?

I would like to know more about saving money and investing.  I would also like to cultivate my consistency with my relationships.  The people in my life are very important to me and I just want to get my close relationships back.  My friends help me grow and our connections inspire me.

25/ How can I be kind to myself?

I can treat myself to better relationships and more experiences in my life.  Experiences are more meaningful than things and I am learning that so this year 2014 I will be 30 and I will be experiencing more rather than loving things.  I will love my experiences and create more moments with my loved ones!

Those are the answers to the questions from 25 Questions To Ask Yourself Before 2014. I answered them after 2014 but I feel I received a lot from the questions and my answers because it made me think about things I tried to forget and didn’t really want to bring to the front of my thoughts. I’m not sure if Life Is A Sunset created the questions but whoever did had a great mind to think of those questions and knew that people like me NEEDED to bring these thoughts to paper and put them in front of our faces to give ourselves reality kicks in the butt!! 

I have officially been kicked!!!

If you have answered these questions, please post a link to your post so I can read your answers. I feel like that would be really interesting.

Resolving To Be….?

It’s that time of year again where everyday is feeling brand new and wanting to improve their lives.  It’s a time of “I will exercise more”. It’s a time of “I’m going to save more money”. It’s a time of “I’m going to find love”.  It’s a time of “I’m going to follow my dreams”.  It’s a time for New Year’s Resolutions.wpid-2011-year-resolution-400x400.jpg

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January 1 is when most people start the journey of their new year and their resolutions.  Some people are great  at setting, starting and following through on their resolutions.  Some people set, start, and don’t follow through on their resolutions.  I am one of those people that don’t make New Year’s resolutions because I feel that when I want to change, I will.  I just change.  I can’t wait because normally my habits just change without me really thinking about it.

When it comes to healthy living and eating right, I am okay with that.  I actually have a nice love affair with vegetables and fruit and don’t have any trouble eating them.  Exercising, however, is not my favorite thing to do but I know I have to do.  So I do **side eye** sometimes.

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As far as money goes, I ended and am starting the year off right already.  There are things I want to do this year as far as vacations because this year I will be celebrating my 30th birthday and I have to, just must, take a trip to New York City. NO question or doubts!

Love in the year of 2014 is me loving myself more.  I’m open to loving someone else if it happens and God blesses me with that person but I’m not looking for it.  It will come when it’s time.  I’m focusing on strengthening my relationship with God first.  That is the most important relationship in my life.  That is the ultimate love.

I’ve been sleeping for a long time and it’s time to wake up from my dreams and start living in them.  I’m going back to school and I started this blog and I LOVE writing that I’m doing.  I just have so many things career wise that I want to accomplish so I’m doing it.

I guess the way it’s sounding I actually have a couple of things that are like resolutions that I want to accomplish but I refuse too call them that.  I will just call them “future accomplishments”.  I like that.  If you have any “Future Accomplishments” that you aspire to, leave them in the comments.  I would love to read about them.

By the way,  I’m actually thinking of changing the name of my blog.  2014, time for new things, right? More on that later!! HAPPY NEW YEAR!!! 2014 is YOUR YEAR!!! Make it count!!

At The Stroke of Midnight….2014!!! Where Was I?

2013 was an interesting year for me.  It wasn’t great but it wasn’t horrible.  The beginning of the  year was worse than the rest of the year for me.  I got over the beginning and got on firm ground for the rest of the year.  By my birthday in September, I was okay and making strides.  The end of 2013 concluded with me being in a good position in my life and looking forward to 2014.

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When the clock struck 12 midnight I was sitting on the couch watching television and painting my nails.  Reason being that I worked New Years Eve night and got off at 10pm and decided while there that I would have a nice night in reflecting on 2013 and planning for 2014.

I also wrote a blog post. Not this particular post but one for later.  This one I wanted to write much after the New Year so I waited.  I’m starting this year of 2014 off right with making a decision to write a blog post for the first day of 2014 and hopefully keep it going throughout the year.

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I am not exactly where I want to be but I’m changing into the person I want to be and I’m getting better and better everyday.  Sometimes I may not make all the right decisions but I’m consciously trying to be better and last night and in future nights I will be right where God wants me to be.  From this point on, I will be actively letting God lead me and creating a better relationship with Him.

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I hope everyone of you were where you wanted to be but most of all where you needed to be last night when 2013 turned to 2014.  I also hope all you “future accomplishments” are in line with the life you want to lead.  HAPPY NEW YEAR to you all!!! 2014 is YOURS! Claim it! I AM!!!

When My Life Transitions So Does My Hair

So I’ve made a decision that I’m actually happy with.  I actually believe I made the decision months ago but didn’t realize it.  This transition I’m making is definitely a lifestyle change.  I’m making a lot of those but I’ll share more about the others later.  The transition I’m speaking of now is *drumroll* my Hair!

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When I was younger I didn’t get a relaxer until maybe 9th grade because my mother wanted my hair to be as healthy as it can be for as long as I could handle it being natural.  Once before I got a relaxer my dad asked me if I wanted my hair straightened or pressed and I said yes and he took me to get it done.  My mother was more than a little upset.  I think it was because she wanted to be there for that event in my life and she just wasn’t ready for me to have my hair straightened in any way.  I got my hair pressed ever since then until 9th grade when I got my first relaxer.

I can’t lie.  When I got my first relaxer it was just easier to have my hair permanently straightened for at least 2 months because of all the activities I was involved in.  Being able to just put a comb through it and pull it back was just time-saving and I loved it.

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I’m getting older and way more comfortable with who I am and not worried about everybody else’s happiness above my own.  I’m loving me so I decided to grow my relaxer out so that my hair grows to its natural texture.

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Transitioning my hair to becoming a natural girl has been fairly easy and is actually about the same maintenance as my relaxed hair in my opinion.  I LOVE the way it curls and waves and moves and I’ve been watching an endless number of Youtube videos to figure out the best way to maintain it and make sure it stays healthy throughout the whole process and it’s coming along very well.  I’m really happy with the look and feel of my hair and I’m looking forward to every stage of my natural hair growth.  EVERY. BEAUTIFUL. STAGE. As of right now I am in Stage 2 as seen below. I will post pictures soon of all these curls I have.

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Hey is there something in your life that’s new for you or something you’re transitioning into or out of?  Let me know and leave a link if you’ve written about it in my comments.

The Cool and Calm of Nighttime…Authentically

I have been on this earth for 29 years and from my memory of my life, I have always been a night owl.  I never liked waking up in the morning to go to school and I’m just not a morning person.  I have never understood what makes a person wake up in the morning and be extremely chipper and happy.  Sometimes I just want to ask them “What happened to you this morning?”  I wonder how they are so happy and upbeat that early in the morning.

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I remember back in my school days my mother waking me up to get ready and she’d come in my room and say “Wake up Little Girl” even though I was in junior and high school.  I’d open my eyes and say to myself “I’m just going to lay here another 5 minutes”.  I would fall right back to sleep.  About 20 or 30 minutes later, my mom would come back and say “Girl I woke you up 30 minutes ago.”  I never could just get up.  I feel like I had to be jolted awake to really be awake.

I feel that nighttime is when I am my most authentic self emotionally, physically, and creatively.  I love the night because because of the mystery of it and how it allows me to find things out for myself.  The time I have at night is when I gather my thoughts and create and have my best ideas.  The nighttime is when I feel my most EVERYTHING!!! I just feel like myself.

Hey let me know when you feel your most authentic in the comments below. Night or day?

From Where I Write….

I know I know!! Another late blog post but I’m trying to play catch up here so please bare with me. I know I don’t have a lot of followers (or any) right now but I’m hoping I can inspire some people.  I love writing so I knew that I was going to absolutely LOVE blogging.

If you have read my previous posts, you know that I’m a newborn baby to this world of blogging but I love it! Along with this post I am answering the call of NaBloPoMo’s writing challenge for November 5 by posting a response to *drum roll* “Tell us about your writing space. Where do you write your blog posts?”

Considering I just started blogging I don’t have a writing space that has been consistent. I write wherever I am which sort of helps me to write and express greater than in one place.  I’m sure at some point I will design a space for my writing time but as of right now “I blog where I am”. Right at this moment I am writing from my sister’s dorm room because I’m spending time with her in her new city in the great state of Louisiana. I love it here by the way!!

Since I don’t have a particular space that I write, I decided to give some examples of spaces that I love for their design and inspiration to me:

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I love the idea of having a space of my own that I can write from where I feel creatively colorful all the time but I also like being out in nature so I’m sure I would be outside too. Nature is, after all, the greatest work space ever created. Love the following ideas:

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It is really great blogging because I am really feeling that creative swagger coming out of me. I  LOVE IT!!!!

Poetic Thursday

So it is Thursday again and I realize I hadn’t posted a new poem since I began Poetic Thursday but I’m trying to do a better job of being consistent in my blogging so here is another poem by me:

Perfection

In my mind I see perfection
He lives in my mind
As that symbol that could do wrong
But admit he was wrong and make it right
That will disagree
But agree with me that we disagree
And never let it come between he and me
That sees my faults and loves my faults
Because he knows they’re a part of me
I dream of him in the day
And think of him in the night
I feel his words sink into my heart as I breathe
I hear his voice
Penetrate my soul as he speaks
Perfection is in the eye of the beholder
And my eye beholds perfection in him
By definition, in my version of Websters
It’s simply put “He”

Written by me October 6, 2010

Hopefully I can keep this going every week. Comment below to let me know if you like Poetic Thursday.

Thanks for reading! It means a lot. 

A Cover Represents A Thousand Words

Ok so I’ve been slacking on a lot of things (this blog included) and reading has definitely been one of them. I love reading and have since I was a little girl. I could read a single book in 2 days and move right on to the next one without missing a beat.

Back then I got recommendations for books from my friends and for the most part, my friends and I would just borrow each other’s books and pass than around to everybody until they got back to the original owner. We had done that since junior high on into high school. My friends helped me choose books back then.

However now that I am older and more mature I choose my own books of whatever genre I feel at that time to indulge in. Lately though I’ve been reading more career books such as

Russell Simmons “Super Rich”
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50 Cent and Robert Greene “The 50th Law”
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The covers of these 2 books didn’t necessarily pull me in but the description of each book did. When I read a nonfiction book (which these both are) I read the book based on reviews, recommendations, and the  given by the author/publisher. I feel that most nonfiction books’ covers don’t tell you about the book more than it tells you about the author. Self-help/career read tend to play to the fact of who the author is rather than what the book is actually about so you have to read reviews and the description.

Fiction books, however, are all about the cover artwork because that is what will draw the reader to the book when the person is in a store that has a display of books. The cover has to be interesting to look at for a reader to pick it up and even read the description of what it’s really about.

When I decide I want to read a book no matter what genre, I go to Amazon, Barnes and Noble or a local bookstore to read the description, reviews, or actually look through the table of contents and the first couple pages. Looking through the book myself helps me get a feel for the content and decide if it’s something I’m interested in. The cover may have very little to do with me buying it or choosing to read it. Content makes or breaks my decision ultimately on the choice.

I am actually now looking for a couple of books to keep me company. I get recommendations and inspiration from different places so if you have any recommendations leave me a comment below. I’d love to hear from you!

Thanks for reading!

Working On My Unplugged Self

So at this time I am actually plugged in listening to Kid Fury and Crissle on The Read, an amazingly hilarious podcast of two friends that speak the honest, brutal truth and say what everyone else is thinking. These two personalities are intelligent and more real than real will ever get. Listening to Kid Fury and Crissle is something I make time to do every SINGLE week. It’s like a rite of passage and if you’ve never heard The Read, you should be read on the show. Google it, listen to it, and be extremely entertained.

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As you can see I am plugged in a good amount of the day and I know sometimes it’s a bit much but I’m sorry I am IN LOVE with Instagram.That’s my creative side because I love seeing people’s lives and what beauty people can capture with just a camera on their smartphone. AMAZING!

I also love using my phone to store things I need to remember and receive information from different websites. I use it to listen to podcasts, books, and read blogs. I’m actually using my phone posting right now. I am pretty much always plugged in but I am realizing being on social media and the internet all the time is leading me to forget how much I love being available to people in person and to myself present in the moment.

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I love just being! So I’m making a conscious effort to unplug and live in the moment to get things done and experience life in a way that I’ve always wanted to live. I’m starting the journey and I’m excited to see what’s in store for me!